Love Swing

Marital seduction…that’s a contradiction in terms, right? Shouldn’t you expect sex in a committed relationship? Isn’t convenient, available sex one of the perks of tying the knot? Don’t most societies consider it a wife’s duty to deliver sex?

Well, sure, if you want expected, convenient, dutifully delivered sex. Why not just call for a pizza while you’re at it?

If, on the other hand, you’d prefer to keep sex as thrilling and fulfilling during your relationship as it was before the commitment, keep your seduction kit in a handy place. You need it more than ever. Seduction is the ventilation that keeps the fire burning.

But let’s be clear about this. By seduction, we mean seduction. As in courting, sparking, pitching woo—what a sex therapist might call pleasuring. But mostly, we’re talking about making her feel wanted enough to consider giving in to your desire, and then making her feel confident enough to do more than just consider it.

So forget all those Cosmo-inspired clown acts that put her in Saran Wrap and you in a G-string and half a tuxedo. The fine art of romantic persuasion doesn’t have to turn into some crazy caricature of itself. “I can’t think of anything less exciting than coming home drag-ass tired and seeing my partner prancing about in some ridiculous getup.”

Don’t get us wrong. Fun and games have their place. But seduction is something else, something far more effective (not to mention more dignified) as a sex motivator on a daily basis. That’s because continued courtship works. It works to get her in the mood. And it works to get you in the mood.

Building Anticipation

For one, it kindles that most delicious of all sexual feelings—anticipation. Sexual spontaneity may get all the good press, but anticipation, nurtured along by your seduction skills, is where the thrill is at. A delay between the idea and its fulfillment heightens the entire experience.

Believe it or not, that’s even more true in a relationship (when you’re pretty sure of a successful seduction) than it was back in your willshe-or-won’t-she days. For that, you can thank something called the partner engagement theory.

“That’s where the arousal builds because of who your partner is and what she means to you”. “It’s why the mushy, romantic stuff is so important.”

Also, by setting out to seduce your wife, you remind yourself that she’s your ultimate sexual conquest. Admit it—you do tend to overlook that sometimes, don’t you? Well, don’t feel guilty. It’s common in the best relationships.

“Men tend to ‘neuter’ their wives over time”, “We see them as companions, as partners, as helpmates, as co-parents, as co-managers of the household, as every wonderful thing there is except sexual objects.”

The key to availing yourself of seduction’s sex- enhancing power is convincing yourself to do it. The rest is easy. There are a million and one seduction techniques, and we offer a mere fraction of those below.

Do it her way. Seduction may tum both of you on, but don’t forget ifs her you’re trying to seduce.

Remember, women place a lot of importance on the more tender signs of affection. She probably won’t like it if you sneak up behind her to pinch a breast and bite an ear, and there’s no way she’s going to interpret that as seduction. On the other hand, a longer then-usual goodbye kiss in the morning with a meaningful “I’ll see you tonight”—now you’re getting somewhere. “It has to be something that she can easily interpret and appredate”, “Seduction has to be romantic.“

Create the mood. Don’t wait until one or both of you is “in the mood.” That’s cheating. Waiting is the opposite of seduction. The whole point is to create the mood, even if you’re creating it in yourself as well as in her. Don’t look for the conditions that will lead to the best sex. Plan them.

Start early. Women are more enthusiastic about lovemaking at night if they feel connected with you throughout the day. A little extra attention at the breakfast table, followed up by an afternoon I-love-you phone call, will pay big dividends come bedtime.

Take the hint. Women are even more into this seduction thing than you are. After all, the romantic side of sex is their specialty. But their technique can be subtle, like leaving that sinful little negligee around someplace where you’re sure to see it. So look alive and helpher out. “She can be setting things up with sexy little hints”.

Do the little things. Seduction doesn’t have to be a big production. Courtship behavior can consist of small touches. Literally. “Hold her hand,” “A little extra touch here or there is very exciting to a woman.”

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